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Your marriage is rocky

The love and connection you once had feel like distant memories, replaced by tension and distance.
You wonder if you have a flatmate or a spouse.

You’re Lost in Dating

Finding someone feels impossible when every date ends in confusion and disappointment. 
You’re stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage, repeating cycles you don’t even realize.

Intimacy Feels Broken

The closeness and passion you long for feel out of reach, leaving you frustrated and disconnected. 
You see your accountant more often that you have sex with the person you love.

Coaching: Championing a-players in Love and Life

1 : 1 coaching

Tailored, private sessions designed to help you overcome personal obstacles. Every coaching is customized to ensure permanent growth.

My individual coaching is designed for highly motivated individuals who are ready to take their personal and professional lives to the next level. Achieve clarity in just 10 weeks and transformation in 20 weeks.

Coaching: Championing a-players in Love and Life

Couples coaching

If both partners are fully committed, guided sessions for couples will strengthen communication and rebuild intimacy.

My couples’ coaching service is designed for busy, high-performing couples who face the challenges of balancing demanding careers with a fulfilling relationship.

Guest speaker

Kanica Saphan as sexology coach & speaker

My signature conference focuses on preventing sexual harassment by educating attendees on the critical difference between seduction and harassment in an engaging, dynamic way. It’s an eye-opening session that has been widely praised by universities for its impactful, practical approach to fostering healthier, more respectful environments, especially in multicultural environments.

  • Pre-arranged and tailor-made conferences
  • Participation in panel discussions

Conference tailored to your needs

From the Bedroom to the Boardroom : Relational adaptation

This conference offers an original reflection on how our relational dynamics—seducing, presenting ourselves, managing first impressions—find direct resonance in the world of work.
First dates and job interviews, arranged marriages and imposed marketing-finance duos, meeting the in-laws and integrating into a new team: the parallels are striking. The mechanisms are often the same—authenticity, communication, managing personalities (narcissistic, evasive, people-pleasers, controlling, etc.). Ultimately, the way we relate to others at work reflects the way we relate to others in our personal lives. Participants will leave with concrete tips for improving their interactions, strengthening collaboration, and developing a more authentic presence from the very first encounters.

World Peace Starts in the Bedroom : Conflict management

The skills needed to manage the most sensitive conflicts—often those related to intimacy—are the same ones that will enable you to navigate other critical situations, such as budget cuts or restructuring.
Inspired by the methods of researcher John Gottman, PhD, this conference-workshop transposes his principles of couples therapy to the world of work. In a hyper-growth startup where engineers no longer talk to the sales team, or in the context of international collaborations, unresolved tensions can quickly paralyze collaboration. Through concrete case studies and role-playing, and drawing on sexology and couples therapy, participants will learn to navigate tensions with therapeutic finesse and military efficiency, transforming disagreements into opportunities for lasting collaboration.

Kanica Saphan, relationship counselor for high achievers

Balance your success with fulfilling relationships

Call me your happiness sergeant, because I’m the only executive coach with expertise in sexology, therapy, and military experience, offering a personal growth journey like no other.

I founded Le Sofa Sexologique, a private practice where my team of sexologists and I help people overcome their most intimate challenges.

After working with so many couples, I created The Sexology Deck, a couples game sold in the US, Canada, and the UK. I’ve been a featured speaker on radio, TV, podcasts, and in magazines and newspapers, as well as a lecturer and trainer for the federal government and universities. I hold specialized training in sexology from the University of Québec in Montréal and executive coaching from Harvard.

Beyond my work in sexology, I am the daughter of Cambodian refugees, a former Canadian military member with 5 years of service, and a globetrotter who has lived in France and Italy, and explored solo over 30 countries—all of which has given me the ability to connect deeply with people from all walks of life, including those from the left and the right, the wealthy and the struggling, academics and laborers, criminals and intellectuals, and individuals from vastly different cultures and backgrounds. Because of my exposure to such a broad spectrum of realities, I’ve grown to be a passionate lover of life, deeply grateful for every day I have on this earth. This journey has clarified my mission: to inspire others to live unapologetically. Emotional courage and radical authenticity are at the heart of everything I stand for.

My book

Manuel de survie dans la jungle du dating

Exciting news! My book on love and dating is set to be published in October 2025 by the renowned French publisher, Michel Lafon.

Stay tuned for insights, personal stories (yes, mine), and game-changing guidance that will transform the way you see relationships. Learn how a couples therapist chooses a life partner, what she looks for, and what truly matters for lasting love.

Available in preorder on leslibraires.ca and at your local bookstore from October 23, 2025

Sexology Deck

60 Ways to Spark Passion and Deepen Your Connection

This sumptuously illustrated deck takes a holistic approach to relationship wellness with 60 prompts that range from recreating your first date to discussing love languages, reading erotica together, sharing sexual fantasies, playing with power dynamics, writing each other love letters, and so much more.

FAQ

What won't be address

In coaching, we focus on personal growth, goal achievement, and performance enhancement. However, certain issues fall outside the scope of coaching. These include psychopathology, such as severe mental health problems, personality disorders like borderline personality or bipolar disorder; addiction; trauma; and PTSD, which requires specialized therapeutic intervention. If you are dealing with any of these concerns, I will refer you to a qualified mental health professional who is equipped to provide the appropriate care.

Coaching is most effective when used to complement, not replace, professional therapy for these conditions.

Why work with a therapist-turned-coach?

Working with a coach trained as a therapist is like working with a personal trainer who’s also a sports medical doctor—it combines practical strategies with a profound understanding of the underlying factors at play. My academic and professional background allows me to delve deeper into human behavior, emotions, and relationships, addressing challenges at their core.

I can identify nuances that typical coaches might overlook, such as defense mechanisms, attachment styles, levels of emotional regulation, and mental health red flags, like signs of clinical depression or generalized anxiety. I can detect when an executive’s problems stem from concealed or ignored psychological difficulties.

Instead on analyzing only the surface-level interactions between two people, I can decipher the dynamic between them.

Put simply, I will help you see your situation from a 3D perspective instead of 2D.

Harvard Business Review published an insightful (but lengthy) article on the advantages of working with a coach trained in interpersonal & intrapersonal psychology.

Is it confidential?

Everything is confidential, except if I believe someone’s life is in imminent danger or if a child’s safety or well-being is at risk.

Is it covered by insurance?

I provide receipts as an executive coach.

Coaching isn’t typically covered by insurance since it falls outside traditional healthcare services. However, it’s an investment in yourself—much like a gym membership or high-quality nutrition.

Let’s be real: What’s the value of saving your marriage, finding true love, and creating the sex life you deserve?

Put simply—working with me costs far less than a divorce!

Online versus in-person

If you happen to be located in the coolest Canadian city that is Montréal, I will gladly see you in person. Otherwise, we will meet virtually!

Waiting time

There is typically a two-month waiting period before you can begin your journey with me. However, due to occasional cancellations, you may be able to book your first introductory meeting sooner.

If there’s a good fit, you can continue the process and begin your 10 weekly sessions with me in approximately two months.

Session length

Sessions are 45 minutes, allowing the remaining 15 minutes for mandatory administrative tasks. During this time, I process payments, update your file with notes, and send any necessary homework or follow-ups.

Do you offer free introductory calls?

I don’t offer free introductory calls because my experience has shown that a brief conversation isn’t enough to truly assess whether we’re the right fit.

To respect both my time and yours, I prioritize full sessions, ensuring that every client receives meaningful support from the very start. After our first session, we can determine together if my approach aligns with your needs and goals.

Languages

Bonjour!

My first language is French, and I am bilingual in English.

Capisco bene l’italiano ma risponderò in francese o in inglese.

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